And reality stares you in the face
What then?
For many this is when the marriage begins to die
Or so called steady relationship
While the power of sex is strong in us we can avoid the deeper reality
We can avoid seeing our own projections onto the other person
Projections so many have about each other
When the initial lust calms as it must
We begin to notice that there are things about the other that we do not like
Things that were so well hidden in the first flush of romance
Around 40% of marriages fail in the first four years
We would bet a large number because the two parties were projecting like crazy
To avoid this happening again or for the first time
Try imagining the relationship without sex
No sex
Just you and the other sitting, eating, sleeping and doing all those normal things couples do
No sex
How is the character of the other is she generous or mean?
Controlling perhaps?
And how is her family?
How is her relationship with others?
Does she have friends and how are they?
Notice these things about each other before entering into that exciting sexual period
If you can that is
The pull of lust is a strong one
How strong are you?
Better to be cautious before entering into commitments of a more serious nature
Maybe some of those old ideas about courtship and romance were not so stupid after all
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