Dynamics

Imagine that everything your partner says is true.
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It's easy to listen to someone
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Not so easy though to see things from someone else's viewpoint. 
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To think like someone else you have to be able to suspend your own perceptions
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To let go being right
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To abstain from judgement
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It is also important to remember that they do not think that they are wrong
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When they talk they believe what they are saying is right
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This is why it is important to be able to put yourself in their place
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To be able to understand from their point of view
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Why should I do this?
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Because everything in life has a dynamic
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Up down, sideways, few relationships stand still
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They might appear to though
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On the outside that is
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On the inside can be another matter entirely
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Both of you have lives 
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Lives that influence your thoughts and behaviour
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These separate lives when away from each other influence our feelings and thoughts
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This is why being able to see things from another persons point of view is important
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A skill that once learnt we can bring into our private lives where all too often we take things for granted
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We all know how our partner thinks
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Really?
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If this is true then explain why fifty percent of all relationships go to the wall within five years
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It is the subtle things under the surface that lead to relationship breakdown
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However we can learn to notice changes
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Often subtle changes
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Changes that indicate our partner is not where we thought they were
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Even if things are just purring along
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Remember there is always more love to be had from your relationship.
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A good relationship is about work and compromise
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Work to understand each other
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Compromise to help things along
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Consideration for the other one's point of view is a major part of this