'bitching is good' because they are desensitising girls to the effects on others of what they might say or do.
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Girls are being led to believe that making or breaking friendships is like making 'friends' on Facebook, where they are made or dropped at the click of a button.
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But is also causing more and more people to mistake electronic reactions for human emotions.
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Social encounters are being reduced to texting or tweeting, which have as much resemblance to genuine relationships as a cartoon does to real life.
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There seems to be a boundless reservoir of pathologically uncontrollable hatred and violence which the internet has unleashed.
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So where have all these freaks come from?
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Does social media create all this bitching and bullying, or does it merely provide a platform for what is already out there?
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Probably, both are almost certainly true.
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The mob has always been brutish, given the absence of any social or legal controls.
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What the uncontrolled internet has done is provide the mob with an electronic platform.
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This not only emboldens people to respond to vile messages in a similarly vile manner, but enables them to bully with impunity under the shield of anonymity.
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Dr Wright, however, is talking more broadly about a culture whose brutalising effects upon girls go way beyond social media.
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She observed that the female judges in the X Factor or Strictly Come Dancing tv shows were always pitted against each other, with a subtext of meanness or nastiness.
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Young girls took this at face value, she said, and believed that this was how they too should act.
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There was also an absence of positive role models for young women in celebrity culture where high-profile female friendships, such as that between Paris Hilton and TV personality Nicole Richie, seemed to be based on 'bitchiness, meanness, cruelty and criticising what someone's wearing and how they look'
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When impressionable young girls see this kind of behaviour glorified by the rich and famous, it becomes much harder for them to separate fact from fantasy and to realise there is anything wrong with behaving so atrociously.
Some people think that girls are meaner than boys anyway.
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Although this is a wild generalisation, it contains an element of truth which you can see if you look at the behaviour of young children.
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While little boys tend to be more direct, physical and violent, little girls tend to more manipulative, calculating and spiteful behaviour.
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On the other hand, women have been traditionally believed to be more moral, responsible and prudent than men.
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But all that has been destroyed, alas, by modern feminism.
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In the 19th century, the early feminist pioneers thought their struggle would count for nothing if women merely used their newfound political freedom to emulate dissolute male behaviour.
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But that is precisely what has happened.
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With sexual equality being redefined as identicality, women and girls were told that women's liberation meant behaving just like men.
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This gave rise to the 'ladette' culture among girls of sexual promiscuity, heavy drinking, smoking, swearing and violence.
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At the same time, women and girls were encouraged to think of themselves as able to do without men, who were vilified on a spectrum ranging from emotionally illiterate to rapist and child abuser.
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Those pushing non-judgmental 'lifestyle choices' told women and girls it was their right to bring up children without fathers.
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This amounted to nothing less than telling them they were entitled to cause harm and distress to the children who depended upon their parents for care and protection.
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In other words, as Dr Wright commented, the ladette culture entailed a total lack of both self-respect and respect for others.
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But this surely goes way beyond the behaviour of women.
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Increasingly, Britain is displaying a general culture of cruelty, indifference and even sadism.
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You can see it on TV in the countless shows - 'reality TV' and others - which seek to exploit precisely those horrible characteristics.
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This cynical and devastating brutalisation of popular attitudes derives in turn from the moral vacuum of the 'me society' which is now to be found in just about every aspect of contemporary life.
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Often, people are genuinely astonished to be told how much hurt they may have caused someone else by their own behaviour.
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And that's because - frighteningly - more and more are simply unaware of other people's feelings at all.
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You only have to go abroad and then return to become all too aware of how crude Britain has become with its all-pervasive public obscenities, incivilities and yobbishness.
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This is a society which no longer cares about others because it is almost entirely focused on the individual.
Any proposed restraint on sexual behaviour, whether legal or social, is considered to be an assault on the fundamental human right to instant gratification.
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In schools, protecting children's fragile 'self-esteem' is considered so important that all obstacles - such as failure - are removed.
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In turn, subjects have to be presented as 'relevant' to the child's own life.
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So instead of helping children negotiate the outside world, the education system makes children feel the world revolves around them.
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They grow into adults who simply don't register other people's interests at all, and are astounded to be told they may have some responsibility towards acknowledging or even protecting those interests.
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In intellectual circles, meanwhile, verbal abuse is a commonplace.
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Insult has been substituted for argument on the left, which vilifies everyone who disagrees with it as right-wing, evil or a nutcase - even in newspaper articles lamenting the culture of abuse.
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All this, however, is only to be expected in a society which has junked Judeo-Christian moral values precisely to live lives of unbridled self-centredness.
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Moral rules were developed to restrain the worst in human nature and encourage the best.
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In this post-religious, post-moral society, selflessness, compassion and generosity of spirit have been replaced by selfishness, sentimentality and cruelty.
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Civilisation is only ever a thin veneer.
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As Dr Wright said, the combination of the 'me-society' and the new anti-social media is toxic.
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The internet has peeled back our culture and given us Lord - and Ladettes - of the Flies.
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Melanie Phillips
