Monday, May 22, 2006

Violent outbursts

Many of us have had violent outbursts directed at us.

Many have had violent outbursts ourselves.

Those situations where a little argument turned into a raging outburst, which escalated into a destructive violence going from bad to worse.

Right to the brink in fact

No possibility of compromise.

Only time brings this violence to an end.

Or to the brink of finality.

What is going on?

Your control went and all the real or imagined frustrations came gushing out.

Once started there is no stopping and anything said by the other party just provokes increasing fury until exhaustion sets in.

What to do?

If it is another party then, stall for time, break off the communication if you can.

If it is you then once it has passed time to look at yourself and understand that there is work to be done.

The work is to try to understand what triggered the violence.

Usually this needs help because the cause will not usually be visible to you.

Seek help.

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