Love is not

wishful projection

Is not a mythical lifetime scenario of bliss and harmony

A state of perpetual sunshine and blue skies

Love is tough in many ways

Why?

Because the only real love is unconditional

Where you let go if the other party says no or I have had enough

Or if the other party starts fooling around or engaging in other interests

Take the pain yes and pain it is to experience this awful empty feeling

Learn how much better it is to let that partner go rather than to find out more painfully later when children and other things might have arrived

Hurt yes, it does, the mind spinning around in useless thoughts of what might have been

Pain yes to wake up alone and be alone

Love can come again and maybe this time you will have learnt

Maybe not, if not then around you go again because nature and karma will not be denied

So when time passes look at how lucky you were not to have stayed in a false relationship

One where one or both of you were not honest

Difficult to be objective about these things

But of one thing you can be sure

Love is not something we trade

Not something we manipulate although you might have foolishly thought that you could

Love is not our fears manipulated for perceived personal advantage

If you had been in harmony with each other then the break would not have occurred

Learn what love is not it might save you a lot of pain