Family choice

Families are often portrayed as islands of harmony in a world of disharmony

Once in a while they are

Some siblings like each other

Some children love their parents

Often they do not

One way to feel more comfortable with your family relationships is to look at them differently

In truth our parents are only our genetic parents

Our spirit is our own and is not shared with anyone

Seldom does one spirit move down one genetic line meaning we have all experienced life in many different families and cultures

We have all been male and female

We choose our parents because they can best start us off on this life in the way we need to learn the lessons we came into this life to learn

This does not mean that they necessarily love us or are even very kind

It does mean that they shape us towards what we came here to learn

Often our brothers and sisters and other relatives are those we have know in other lives and with whom we have unfinished business

Our karma puts us in relationship with each other so that we can resolve these relationships and learn to treat each other correctly

Once this way of looking at your family is understood then many things become easier

We do not need to accept manipulation by family members

We do not need to pretend to like each other

Yes we do need to behave with kindness and consideration

No we do not need to spend time with each other if we do not want to

Families are great teachers, often tough ones

So be it so is life

Clear your thinking about your family and you free yourself in many ways to get on with what you are really here to do

There is no choice about the family you are born into

There is a choice about how you understand this relationship

A choice about how you behave

Family choice if you will