'Pain is a question of mind over matter--I don't mind and you don't matter!'
Neat sign in a dentist's waiting room
Not sure it did much for his patients peace of mind though!
Truly though pain is a natural part of life
Yes we will all experience plenty of pain in our lives
Physical pain
Mental pain
Emotional pain
And what can you do about this?
Nothing because pain will come and go in your life
It will come when it does and you will have to adjust and accept it
Smart people question what they can do to reduce the amount of pain once it arrives
Physical pain is reducible by increasing your pain threshold
Next time you have physical pain learn about it go right into it
Feel every detail of it, every nuance
As you do this so the pain changes, and if you can stay with it you can learn to accept it better
Very advanced humans know how to stay in pain and then absorb it into their reality in a way that allows them to continue functioning satisfactorily and then later the pain is gone absorbed completely
Physical pain can be devastating so for sure painkillers have their place as do morphine and other drugs.
Take the minimum necessary
Mental pain is reduced or eliminated by having a higher hierarchy of values, which allows you to become the observer of the mental pain without directly being affected
This is not easy and takes considerable practice
Denying the situation merely pushes it back and sooner or later it will come back although many choose to deny this reality
Mental pain can lead to breakdown so finding good help is important
Emotional pain is tough because it will not leave you alone
Emotional pain is an attack on one of our most sensitive areas and cannot be brushed away
Keeping busy is one approach
Another is to find activities which require extreme focus because while doing these actions we cannot be worrying about our emotional pain and therefore get some rest from it
Obviously over time the emotional pain changes so being busy with new actions helps to pass the time and dull the hurt
Pain is most certainly a teacher although many try to avoid it
Some turn to pills
Not so clever as they bring their own problems
Often they have side effects
They can and do often create dependencies
They cost money often lots of it
They solve nothing
Other people turn to smoking and or drugs and or alcohol
Temporary relief then the pain returns as you have not addressed the true causes
Face up to it many of man's pleasures are designed to take away or dull pain
Face up to it that they also resolve nothing
They leave you where you were before or usually worse off
So here's another approach
Accept that pain is OK
That pain is a normal reasonable part of life
Pain can teach us things, many things about ourselves and others so look at pain as a teacher
even as a friend
Without pain we would often be unaware of dangers
The pain from that cut alerts you to take action
That pain in your stomach warns you not to eat so much or pay attention to what you are doing
So yes pain can be a friend
Accepting pain helps us to handle it in a less defensive or angry way, which for sure is more useful than resenting it
Pain is a natural and if used properly is a strong teacher
Think about it humanity learns more through pain than most other things
Pity really because love is also a teacher and could help us much more if only we showed more of it to each other
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