Finding each other

Butterflies can find each other over amazing distances

We can too over the Internet

Nearer to home is often more practical

So how come it seems so hard

When filling in forms describing ourselves
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Finding that best photo

To write reasonably about ourselves
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Can it be that we feel we need to exaggerate?
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To extol our virtues
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To gloss over this 'n that

Yes it is, so many distort or exaggerate their charms

Agencies try to filter these claims
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Difficult though
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The client is paying
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So agencies try to steer clear of challenging the profiles expressed

Leaving the hidden character flaws presented by the clients

And then people wonder why they do not find matches

Because even when the profile proffered is not too far removed from what others might observe there is still that all important chemistry
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And this chemistry is something that makes that instant impact
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Some have it others do not
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Not something learnt
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Although many can hide their negative aspects
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Chemistry is there or it is not
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If this is no problem then good luck
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If it is a problem then here's a thought for the day
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Focus your energy on developing those aspects of attraction that are under your control and do not waste your time or energy on those that you cannot alter
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All of us can learn techniques but if after the technique we have nothing then what's the point?
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Meaning that being honest with what we are is best
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Being clear about what we like and do not like is best simply because when we hide or distort our features or character sooner or later it comes out
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Better to be disappointed ten times than to live with someone who is no match and only an illusionary fit
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Listen to the other person
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Learn what you can about their needs and hopes
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Be clear about what you hope to find and if your mental list is ridiculous then stop and ask what am I really doing?

Indeed why do you have a list?

To make sure you do not get hurt, then time to look at yourself again clearly, why do you have a list?
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Try to keep from making dates life and death situations

Why not even enjoy them?
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The more you lighten up the more you can enjoy your meetings whatever the outcomes
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From a relaxed non judgemental date something might have a chance to emerge

This is highly unlikely if you go in with a mental list of points that you imagine are necessary

Give each other a break!