Sharing a life

With a cat is one thing

With a dog is another

They are two of the most common companions that people share their lives with

Then there is sharing life with a goldfish or a pet of any kind

All of the above have certain limitations as sharing companions

And none of them can talk back

However we learn their needs and respect them

The cat comes and goes as it pleases

The dog needs exercise and is loyal where the cat is not

Then again there is the human relationship

Where we share with another human

The most common human form of relationship

Much, much more difficult

Not just a case of feeding and exercising the other party

Although I suppose you could try that at your peril

Human relationships introduce all those emotions which have to be considered

Books, films, media full of help on how to handle sharing with another

Not so easy though

Little things can set the other one off

Off on a tirade of abuse or sulking

Sharing is not easy

Taxes us to the limit sometimes

Often we cannot see the mirror effect in action

The mirror effect is often the trigger that brought us into the relationship in the first place

Often or maybe usually we are in partnership with those who have the same or similar profiles as ourselves

This in the early days of relationship might not be obvious

In fact it usually isn't

Even later we might still not see or believe that we are similar to each other

Or facing similar life lessons

Hard to believe

Yet often it is so

Next time you argue or find yourself unhappy with your partner ponder the idea that you have the same or similar traits

Not easy to accept when we feel so different when looking at each other

Which is why so many relationships break down as we cannot accept what we see as irreconcilable differences when they are often our own traits, our own faults

So ponder could it be true that you have similar traits to the one you cannot any longer get along with?

As a thought for the day nature will put you straight back into the same situation if you do not learn your lessons in the relationship you are in

We can observe this sometimes with our friends who having been hurt by a certain type of partner go and choose the same type that hurt them all over again

What can you see in yourself?