Out of the blue

When you have a disagreement with someone close to you.
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It did not start out that way just evolved from something said.
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Then before you knew it world war three had erupted.
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The nuclear option has been used.
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The nuclear option being instant divorce or break up.
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Both of you feeling right and leaving each other in the frame of mind that the other is at least an idiot if not deliberately trying to hurt you.
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Sometimes the squall passes.
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Sometimes though it does not and just seems to magically grow into a situation that threatens your very relationship.
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Once, twice, three, times this can happen.
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You are aware of this and try to dampen possible points of conflict.
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To no avail along comes yet another squall except that this time it isn't.
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The relationship breaks.
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Maybe it was time.
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Maybe it was over anyway and neither party wanted to point out the obvious.
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Maybe though something else was going on.
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And this is the truth for many relationships.
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One partner is unable or unwilling to change.
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Change is a normal part of life.
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The other has moved on drawing on new understandings.
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Sad story.
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One that effects so many, wondering bewilderedly what happened.
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In these unpredictable times change is all around us.
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This can be threatening.
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Change that subtly affects the basis of our relationship often without our being aware.
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Until one party uses the nuclear option of break up.
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A tough learning experience indeed.
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To avoid or lessen the possibility of being caught in such a scenario.
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Talk with each other and see how they are changing or reacting to change.
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Discus options to adjust the various aspects of your lives.
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Try to find common ground.
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Listen to each other, really learn to hear what they are saying.
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And where this is not apparent, ask them to explain.
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Care for each other.
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Should you find you cannot or do not want to then look inside yourself and be honest as to what has happened.
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Life can be harmonious but only when we are ready to work at it.
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Good relationships require work. 
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Do not let yours disappear because you were not paying attention.