Forget about self-help.
The "self" is fine just the way it is
It doesn't need any help
Because our self is not our body
Not our mind
Our self is what many call our higher self
And it is absolutely fine as it is
Because being our higher self it knows
It knows how we should behave
What we should do
What is real and what is not
Why we are here
In fact everything we need or might want to know
Which is why we keep urging that you learn to meditate
So that you can control and still your mind
Because only by going beyond mind can you reach your higher self
Except of course for those rare occasions when you "just know" something
Or assign knowing to intuition, which is really your higher self
So if you want to grow and communicate with your higher self then the way is clear
Learning to approach our true self is arguably the most important work we can do on ourselves
Nothing can yield more support and help, more truth about the nature of things
Unfortunately the journey
For that is what it is
Is the hardest we can undertake
Which is why so few do so
Coming to you
Why not! What else are you doing?
Something more important?
Is your life really so great?
How is your peace of mind?
Make your life choices consciously
It would be a shame if you come to the end having made none
Or worse maybe having just copied others without ever having thought for yourself
Or maybe just gone along with the prevailing cultural fashion without ever asking yourself if it made any sense or had any feeling of truth to it
Or answered any of your deeper needs
If life has not yielded these truths for you then start thinking because this journey you are on is yours alone and no one can do these things for you
Your higher self is waiting for you to make contact