Really moving on

Is only possible when we acknowledge that we feel stuck and are prepared to examine our life and ourselves

Because without this acknowledgment we are still stuck in that space where change is not possible

This acknowledgment requires a certain detachment and honesty

We need this honesty and detachment to analyse and name the feelings that are holding us back, thereby reducing some of their power over us

For some writing things down gives greater clarity

A clarity to see what might not be clear when we only look at these things in our mind

The clarity that comes from seeing things in black and white

The act of writing down clarifies a situation, detaches you from it

Reduces it's hold over you

And often shows you the beginnings of a way out.

For many people getting out of the house and walking changes their thinking and provides clarity

Being in a state of despair is a solitary one

As is the feeling of being isolated

Getting busy can take you out of this state

Being among people

As can connecting with the flow of what is out on the streets

Even a day in an unfamiliar place can shift your feelings about yourself

Actions to break your patterns of isolation need not be long but they do need to be ones where you cannot keep thinking about yourself

The trick is to focus on some action or activity where you break the pattern of thinking about yourself

This can give you a respite

To really move on requires effort

It also requires that we drop self pity

That we embrace life as something amazing

Something truly positive

Life is also difficult and the sooner we accept this as being the order of things the sooner we can enjoy it and really move on

Life is tough for all of us no one gets out of here without experiencing pain

Pain is part of life, a natural one

Anyone who pretends otherwise is telling a porky pie = lie

Decide to really move on

Recognise that there is always something you can do now

Waiting does nothing to resolve things if you are stuck

Activity and actions can

.

Then and only then can you really move on