Those who we do not like or agree with is a favourite of many
If this is your thing then choose to either let it go or learn how to control your anger
Learn why you get angry
Retaining frustration and anger does nothing for you
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Letting go is an option, a good one if you cannot change anything
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However this is often not easy when someone presses your buttons
Getting fully involved is another, by understanding the other persons point of view not just your own
And then and only then making an effort to do something about whatever it is that angered you
Anger with anything or anyone is not good for us
Anger with anything or anyone is not good for us
Some believe that getting the anger out is healthy
If you are prone to anger then maybe this is necessary, however the next step is learning how to come over this anger
Finding a way past anger is a mega step
Why?
Because it means that you can be on your way to becoming the master of yourself
Being angry means you are not in control, you are not the master of anything
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You are letting your anger rule you
Find out why you get angry
Why do people manage to push your buttons?
Anger over time destroys and unbalances our immune system leading in turn to ill health
Going beyond anger is only possible once we remove our emotional reactions to situations
Doing this requires that we learn not to take things personally even when they are personal
Having distance between ourselves and whatever life sends our way is important in removing our anger
Anger is unhelpful in resolving most situations
Removing it is a powerful step forward towards mastering ourselves
Becoming the master of ourselves is a goal worth pursuing because we can then accept whatever comes our way with equanimity and balance
This has to be better than being a prisoner to our emotions
And finding out why you are angry with things in your life leads you to finding about yourself on a deeper level
As we have said many times mastery of ourselves allows us to experience life on a different level
A level where equanimity and balance are natural
Where anger does not prevail, indeed is absent even from major provocation
Reaching this space helps us to find freedom from our emotions
Start by really looking at yourself and seeing if you can understand where your anger comes from
For sure it comes from fear, starts in fear
What fear?
Which fear?
Sort this and you are on your way
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Some steps
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Once you have calmed down learn more about every situation particularly the other point of view
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Accept that it starts in fear, what frightens you, ask others for their understanding of whatever the situation is and compare this with your own, can you change your understanding?
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Apologise even when you think you are right because it is not about being right it's about being angry and you being able to accept that this is not right in itself
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Being able to say sorry is not just something we teach children it is for us too. Say sorry!
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