When anger keeps arriving

"When angry
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Count to four.
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When very angry, swear.” – Mark Twain


For many people
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It is time to accept that there is an issue with anger
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Anger is an issue that will not get better without your attention
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It is an issue composed of different elements
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At one level fear
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At another frustration
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Whatever the cause we all know that it is better not experience anger
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Anger tends to tire us out
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Tends to strip us of our balance and equanimity
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Anger can be of the slow burn type
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It can also come upon us suddenly
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So what to do?
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Revising your thinking, perception, attitudes and beliefs
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By putting yourself on the right path a different path, certainly this will help
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Buddhists and Hindus suggest that patience and the understanding of karma can be productive
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They say that anger presents itself through a lack of wisdom and understanding in the moment
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What else?
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Empathy where you try and understand where the other person is coming from
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This will lead to a clearer understanding of the situation and, in turn, help you to control your emotions
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The problem with all of these solutions is that anger sometimes comes upon us so rapidly
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If you find yourself in the early stages of a slow burn towards an emotional outburst
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Then any of the processes above will be quite helpful
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Simply because you have time to think about them
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You can then act in the appropriate manner
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But if you're the sort of person who just suddenly becomes angry, it's not a great help
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Simply because anger clouds every other thought
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In that heated moment nothing but nothing is in your mind
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Just the anger
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Meaning that the answer has to be as they say above in your training and efforts before anger arrives
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The work to be done is before the anger breaks
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Because once it is upon you it is too late
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All you can do then is try to calm down quicker
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Learn to say sorry
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The real work is to find the causes
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Acknowledge there is no quick fix
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Find the causes, which are usually in your fears
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Once you have found them
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Work every day to become a better more balanced person