How to bridge the understanding gap or chasm between men and women
Not easy and for sure there are many ideas on the subject
The following is just one aspect
One could argue that the single most important way to bridge the gap in communication between genders is empathy.
It cuts across gender, race, religion, and age differences.
Empathy has nothing to do with expecting something from someone else
Nor is it about conceding to another’s viewpoint.
It has only to do with fully seeing things from another’s point of view
Importantly it is very much about accepting and appreciating that they see it that way.
To truly hear the other person and to let them feel respected
Empathy is how we really achieve this
Often men feel the need to play out the anthropological role of strength and power in the relationship.
Exposing vulnerability to a wife might reduce the stature for which men innately strive.
Totally differently women strive for closeness in relationships
It cuts across gender, race, religion, and age differences.
Empathy has nothing to do with expecting something from someone else
Nor is it about conceding to another’s viewpoint.
It has only to do with fully seeing things from another’s point of view
Importantly it is very much about accepting and appreciating that they see it that way.
To truly hear the other person and to let them feel respected
Empathy is how we really achieve this
Often men feel the need to play out the anthropological role of strength and power in the relationship.
Exposing vulnerability to a wife might reduce the stature for which men innately strive.
Totally differently women strive for closeness in relationships
Big problem these two probably innate characteristics are polar opposites
Divorce statistics bear this out
From an anthropological role of nurturing a wife usually wants to give love and affection
The male to play his role in the world
To bridge the gap if our expectations, acceptance and empathy are tightly woven together
Then this can offer us the means for closing the communication gap between men and women.
To do this we need to step away from the strong hold of our values
Our upbringing
The generational concepts around us
Lingering religious beliefs
Unspoken gender roles
Media and societal concepts
All these have shaped us, often without our conscious awareness
To move on from these values, which can be subtly or strongly engrained in our partners
We must learn to verbalize our true needs, speaking out our concerns
We must learn to verbalize our true needs, speaking out our concerns
Acknowledge and accept our differences
And we must do this without expecting change from others
Too often we expect a change in our behaviour to result in instant change in others
It does not work that way it takes time
We need to honestly see their point of view without judging them
Too often we judge others, it is a natural aspect of a reductionist world behaviour
Measuring and evaluating what they say and might mean.
We can go nowhere when we judge all the time
We must have a personal desire to learn and grow
Learning the knowledge and skills so that we can make continual adjustments in our own behavior and communication style.
If we can embark on this course of action then even small changes in our own behaviour can have a big effect on our relationships
Small changes in our verbal and non-verbal communication can lead to big positive changes in our lives
And of course in our lives with our partners.