Monday, December 17, 2012

Little signs

You know how important body language is. 
It can literally make or break a sale in the business world and outside the business world it shows more about you than you might want to believe or show.
Body language includes all the things that are being said by everything from your posture to the way you play with your hair in the midst of a conversation. 
Believe it or not, all these things express what you may not be saying verbally, and the other person can be picking up on every non-verbal word.
We all know most of the following however it is worth saying again simply because we often forget how much we show each other without realising it.
Looking at your smart phone or PDA
If you are looking at your PDA when someone is talking to you, it's a clear signal that you are not interested in what they are saying. 
It's also a sign of rudeness and disrespect.. 
Turn the smartphone or PDA off and put it out of sight.
Clasping and rubbing hands together
If you are doing this it says you are nervous or uncomfortable. 

Rubbing your hands together may also be an indicator that you believe you have won a point or have an advantage over the person you are talking to. 

Let your hands naturally rest at your sides or on your lap. 

Also, avoid doing things like cracking your knuckles, which is believed to be macho attention seeking behaviour.
There is cool, stylish and there is, well, just plain sloppy dressing. 

If you look sloppy, it will come across that you just don’t care. 

It may also be an indicator of the way you are in other areas of your life. 

But if you are well put together, it shows that you are current and caring.
Whether it is looking at your watch or checking the time on the wall, it says to the other person that you have something more important to do. 

It will make the other person feel rushed as well, so forget the time and focus on the person you are with .
Keep tabs on what you do with your arms. 

If you have them crossed, it makes you look defensive and closed off, or that you are discounting what they are saying. 

Open your arms so that you appear to be inviting.
You have to know that every word coming out of your mouth, no matter how sincere it may sound, will be instantly defeated with even a half a second of twitching muscles. 
When you are looking everywhere but at the person in the eye, it makes them think you can’t be trusted and that you are holding something back. 

Make good eye contact to build trust and show you are engaged and interested.

Little things that can and do destroy our credibility.
Just for interest ask some of those who know you well if they notice you doing any of the above!

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