Being right

All the time
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Every time an argument comes along she has to be right
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Every time a disagreement arises she has to be right
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She has to be right about everything
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And this can be very tiring for anyone living or working with her
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Two approaches are usually adopted by those living or working with her
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Either agreeing all the time that she is right
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Or by arguing and disagreeing with her
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Neither one does more than react to the latest situation
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Neither one addresses the issue as to why she should feel the need to be right
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Being right is often if not usually the sign of a control freak
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And being in control means being right
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And why would one need to be in control?
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Because without this illusion of being right
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Her world will crumble if she is not in control, life is too dangerous, too frightening
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Too frightening for her to contemplate
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Too threatening
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Her inadequacies can be exposed
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Her inner fears realised
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So being right is central to her strategy for handling life
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Without it nothing is sure
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Nothing is clear
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Fear and danger lurk in every corner
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And this state is very common with both men and women
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Can it be changed?
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Only if we are prepared to find that underlying cause, because we sincerely want to change our lives
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Only if we can understand that life is about change
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Life is about risk
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Our modern world tries to pretend that we can remove risk by buying xy and z
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By behaving in certain 'correct' ways
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Doing what we are told
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Never challenging
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Accepting the norms of behaviour shown on telly or in the media
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Then life can be safe
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Sorreeeeee nature will expose this lie
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At some point usually around early middle age nature will force change upon you
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Being right will be exposed
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There will be nowhere to hide
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Only breakdown or ill health and without our health life is not so funny at all
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Many are then broken, they come to us all the time
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Others find the way to fight for their sanity they finally try to 'get it'
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And change to fight for a better experience of life
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And find that better life by being more flexible and tolerant, caring for others even
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A life of risk and letting go, open to new ideas, growing and learning
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Life is risk
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Risk at every turn
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Risk is all around us all the time every day
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We get by by not thinking about risk because it might hurt or harm us
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Letting go of control devices such as being right sounds dangerous
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The reality though is that being wrong is fine, admitting imperfection and doubt are OK
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Besides imagine the joke of trying to be a perfect human?
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Being out of control is fine
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Life is life that's all
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The sooner you understand this the better your life can be
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Let go your control games
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Embrace life
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Live with uncertainty embrace it even
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Try saying 'I am wrong'
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Or even 'you are right'
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A step further to realise it does not matter
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For most situations there is a reasonable place to compromise, try it
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Scoring points and being right also creates friction and enemies
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Over time these forces are going to unite against you
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More fighting. more winning and losing
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Being right is a tough strategy to live with and a very debilitating one
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Maybe better not to be right
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Besides being in conflict all the time as a life choice is not so clever
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For by definition this is what being right means, disagreement and manipulation
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Oh and being right means distorting things because none of us can be right all the time over everything.............
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Can you?