Maybe

Or is it not now?

Or I'd like to but I have no time.

Or maybe later.

I'll think about it

I'm not sure.

I'd like to but....

Or I'd like to but I'm so busy right now.

So often we do not come out and say what we mean.

Later we wonder why people have a certain perception of us.

Small wonder people see us in a certain way when we have only shown them our cautious, hidden self.

If you want people to respect you then learn to say what you mean.

Learn to be clear.

If you are frightened to say what you think then time to look at yourself and question is this how you want to spend your life?

If you are not clear with yourself then how can you respect yourself?

Have no fear be clear!

Sports winning

What does that mean in real terms?

Years and years of dedication to one activity.

Fame perhaps.

Pain for sure.

An extreme orientation towards mental discipline.

Looking over your shoulder at the approaching new generation.

And after the winning?

Some money in the bank if you are lucky.

For most just memories and a hurting body.

Was it worth it?

How would you know, that's all you ever did.

Life can be this and so much more.

Open your mind to life on a larger stage.

Winning is such a limiting concept.

Move beyond winning.

Try caring and sharing.

Mmmmm - 20

'When [an ego] is ready to reincarnate, it is drawn psychomagnetically, instinctually if you like, to the family, to the womb, most sympathetic to its vibrational rate. . . . It is not the parents who give the traits to the child. It is the child, bearing these traits within himself, that is attracted by sympathy of vibrational rates to the parents who will give him a body best fitted to express the character he already possesses in potentia . . .

Disappearing spaces

Our experience of time is changing our lives.

The demands on our lives keep us running all week long, time seems to disappear.

Seems to or is it really disappearing?

Something is different, what is it can you put your finger on it?

Is it your life or is it what we are part of?

If I am the same then it must be what I am part of surely?

So what is different in what I am part of?

All the spaces are being filled in, modern urban life leaves no spaces.

What spaces?

Sound is everywhere, in the air, on the radio, in shops, stations it does
not matter where you go there is intrusive uninvited sound.

There are images everywhere too.

Oh and controls on everything, you need passes and licences for everything.

Everything is crowded, there are so many more of us now.

So the spaces are going or have gone.

Yes, really notice how you have no spaces.

Learn to take back your spaces.

Build space back into your life!

Pretty

Spring is the time of pretty.

A time of renewal, awakening.

Are you awakening?

Are you reinventing yourself?

Creating a new look, approach?

Try it, spring asks for freshness after a long winter.

If you are female then try pretty and if male then fresh will do.

Come alive, live more, let go, run, dance have fun.

The world needs more pretty.

Tidy up

Sounds like mother?

It is however a very simple and accurate indication of where you are.

If your place is a mess and yet you appear clean and tidy in public then look at yourself more critically because you are playing games.

If you are a mess in public and your private life then look to sort yourself out.

Why?

Because if you cannot respect yourself, if you cannot keep yourself clean and tidy then you are lazy and not understanding the importance of self-respect.

Learning discipline is crucial because any vertical journey demands great discipline.

Not interested?

Then fine stay where you are and then try again next life around.

What we fail to learn in any given life we have to do again until we get it right.

Your call, why not be the best you can in every life?

Tidy up your life.

Lovely day

Get out of bed feeling right

No reason why, just feels good.

And so it goes all day, until some prat says something nasty.

Why did he say that?

The truth?

It was an impulse, he was unhappy to feel your happiness.

So what do you do?

Fight him?

No please grow beyond that.

Smile say something nice, let him double choke.

Carry on with your lovely day!

Babies

Not all women are going to have babies.

Should you keep trying if nature keeps saying no?

Why yes, find out what the problems are.

If surmountable fine if not then think twice.

Adoption might be for you.

Then again maybe not, leave societal pressures aside and do what is best for you.

Not all of us will have babies.

There are other ways to lead a fullfilling life.

Move on and find yours if you cannot have a baby.

No hiding

Nothing feels worse than having no money, no home, no future.

True?

Can be if you let it overwhelm you.

However it is possible to let this fear go.

Just stay in the present reality.

The word reality is the key because in this present moment you are OK.

You have clothes on your back, food in your stomach.

Reality is the key, no self-pity, no fear, no stress.

Not easy however reality is the only refuge.

Reality is all, everything else is illusion.

Live in reality however hard.

Make efforts to change your reality every day.

It's your reality so no one else can change it for you.

Sorry but this is down to you.

In point of fact our lives are always down to us.

Stop hiding, live life to the max.

A list

Evil at the current human level of consciousness is very, very real.

Life is easier when we know what we are facing so here is a list of characteristics that evil people often manifest.

Me, myself and I is all they care about
No sense of humor
Always right
Never wrong
Cannot laugh at themselves
Dishonest
Sneaky
No loyalty
No real friends
No interest in anything other than themselves
Demanding
Use others
Ambitious
Long long memories
Enjoy revenge
Only talk about self
Lie smoothly and easily
Lie even when they do not need to
Lie when confronted with anything
Blame others when caught out
Shift responsibility
Smooth tongue when they want something
Very persuasive
Ugly comments behind your back
Always want more
Never satisfied
Want power
Want money
Need adulation
Ego driven

In these politically correct times the word evil is not used very much, however if people you know fit many of the above characteristics then what word do you use to describe them?

Say it as it is!

Little by little

We are beginning to see that the real me is not my body, is not my mind, it is beyond, way beyond both.

Question, how do I find this me?

Move beyond mind for a start, learn to meditate it's the only known way to begin controlling mind.

A simple meditation such as a vipassana meditation is fine.

Every day but every day.

Mind will not believe you are serious unless you do this every day.

If you can do this then one day you will find yourself beyond mind.

This will show you beyond any argument or discussion that it exists, the me beyond mind that is.

Once you have experienced this once you can find it again because you know that it exists.

Good luck and yes it is difficult.

And yes it is more worth while than anything else you can ever do on this planet.

Why?

Because it is pure love, pure beauty.

Yes truly, so little by little is the only way.

Mmmmm - 24

'Learn that no efforts, not the smallest -- whether in right or wrong direction -- can vanish from the world of causes. E'en wasted smoke remains not traceless. "A harsh word uttered in past lives, is not destroyed but ever comes again." The pepper plant will not give birth to roses, nor the sweet jessamine's silver star to thorn or thistle turn.

Laughter

Laughter is good for us.

It is infectious.

It feels great.

It relieves tension.

It is something usually shared.

It brings pleasure.

So why don't you laugh?

We get out of the habit of so many things.

They just slip away.

Put laughter back into you life.

Laugh now, yes now, see how you have lost it!

That divorce thing

When it's over it's over and yet you still fight.

Hurting each other, talking badly about each other, endlessly rehearsing what you will say next to each other.

This is not cool, please understand fighting just does not help.

Let go, when it's over it's over.

When you have agreed to divorce it's over so no more nastiness.

Settle reasonably, let each other go without bitterness.

A few years down the road you will not want to look back with regret.

Let each other be.

The truth is you used to love each other remember that please.

Move on with your life.

Beyond the mundane

Understanding reincarnation and karma is not just for idle curiosity, it is the only way to make sense of our corrupt and brutal planet.

Indeed once this subject is understood and resonates with you then you are free to move ahead in your life understanding.

All major religions taught reincarnation and karma in their original teachings.

Over time these teachings have been manipulated and distorted.

Today only half the world's religions still teach this truth.

Reincarnation essentially says that we all have many lives in which we may learn one or two major lessons per life.

So inform yourself, free yourself to move on.

Try Sylvia Cranston's books on the subject.

Maturity

Girls mature quicker than boys.

Women mature quicker than men.

Small wonder we get out of step with each other.

Maturity is not all though compatibility is crucial too.

So do not just look for maturity in each other check out compatibility and do not make the mistake of thinking that you will change each other.

This just might be a step too far!

Do not confuse boring with maturity this can also be a big mistake!

Do not confuse risk aversion with maturity this too can be painful during the course of a relationship.

Maturity is fine however it is only one element in the jigsaw of compatibility.

Mmmmm - 18

Nothing exists in this objective and illusive world of ours that cannot be made to serve two purposes.

- a good and a bad one.

Choose wisely in making your decisions.

Blowing bubbles

Blowing bubbles really excites little children.

What excites you?

Does anything make you excited any longer?

If it does then good on you if not then sad for you.

Having excitement, anticipating something with pleasure is a buzz.

Wake up and live life.

If you are in a rut then get out of it, do something new this spring.

Go to a park, ride a roller coaster, the biggest scariest you can find.

Ride it without prejudgement, let it overwhelm you.

Then blow some bubbles, let go be silly, enjoy your day.

Blowing bubbles is not just for children.

Lost Love

Lost love might hurt but then life is composed of both pleasure and pain.

No one goes through life without pain.

Life is about growing to our potential.

Each life gives us one or two major lessons to learn.

Lost love can be one of these.

When we fall for each other objectivity goes flying out of the window.

We hear no voices of caution, we listen to no counsel from our friends.

As time goes on one can become tired of the other, maybe was being used by the other.

The relationship ends usually with the one leaving feeling no real pain while the one being left can be devastated.

Question?

Isn't it better not to love than to go through the pain of lost love?

Answer no.

Why?

Because love is a great teacher if we let it.

Most humans only grow or learn through pain.

Sad but true.

Many, many people having been hurt once or twice decide never to commit again.

Poor people, they are frozen in half-lives because for better or worse the two sexes exist to teach and support each other.

True we do not understand each other very well, however it would be a sad little planet if one sex disappeared.

So lost love is there to help us grow, it's up to us.

Retreat in pain or give it time, learn and try again.

Usually we need several relationships to better understand ourselves and others.

How can we grow without making mistakes?

Be brave and accept that the pain of lost love is how it is and that over time the pain goes.

Do not be bitter, thank the other for the good times and be grateful that they did move on rather than living a bigger lie.

Thank them for what they taught you.

Really there is no lost love just growing and moving on.

Love the spring

I don't know where you are but here spring is in the air.

Birds are really starting to strut their stuff.

Great to hear the noises of new life in the air.

Strong powerful songs to advertise themselves.

Noises of hope, renewal.

Can we be far behind?

I trust that you too have made plans to live life to the full this year.

Whatever your circumstances start anew this spring.

Make this year one of fun and life.

Start singing your song today, strut your stuff even!

Learn your opposite

If you are born male or female to be complete you need to learn the opposite sex in you, the other part of you.

Simply put if you are male then learn your female side and vica verse if you are female.

Oh and to confuse things a bit many males are quite feminine and many females masculine so they need to learn about their own sex.

We range in type across the sexual spectrum and whatever our position there is reason to understand that other part of us, that part which is less obvious.

Why?

Because it allows us to be more balanced, more harmonious.

It helps us to understand more about each other.

Balance or equanimity is all, because if we are balanced then we can be less stressed, less pressured.

So learn your opposite, the one living inside you.

The one you do not understand.

It's a wise investment.

Narrow path

Modern life is a narrow path in many ways.

So long as things go fine then all is peachy.

However once something goes wrong then bingo!

Suddenly we enter the world of recorded voice messages with innumerable options that yield more options and take forever to say what they need to say.

Finally we reach a human only to discover that he she can only spout bureaucratic jargon.

Nothing but nothing is more designed to make us frustrated than the inhuman nature of so many organisations and people.

Deep breath and go slowly through the necessary steps one at a time.

No emotion please just do what you need to do.

This is not personal it is just the way it is.

Remember there is a beginning, middle and end to everything.

So you are not in the beginning that is when it went wrong.

You are in the middle so only the end to deal with, and voila back on the narrow path again.

Until the next time that is!

Equanimity

Equanimity is not your average word although it represents something we all need to find.

In modern parlance it means balance.

If you have balance then life is manageable if not then problems abound.

How to find balance?

Recognise this moment now is the only and most important.

All other moments are to come or have already gone.

So learn to be cool in this moment now.

Simple to say and so hard to do.

Find equanimity and life will be easier.

40,000

Can you believe 40,000 ecstasy or MDMA pills over nine years?

Yes, this is what one Englishman is estimated to have taken.

Needless to say he is in a real mess.

Just a reminder nothing is for free.

Enjoy life, enjoy yourself and understand clearly that everything has a price if not now then later.

No one walks out of life without paying their karma.

So look around and see how it is possible to enjoy yourself without attracting mega payback penalties.

In fact it is possible to enjoy yourself with actions and activities which enhance your well being.

Check them out, find them out.

Life does not have to be about taking chemicals to enhance your feelings.

Clean does not have to mean sterile.

In fact life can be exciting whatever your situation it's in you already!

Being apart

Being apart is seldom easy.

Learning to make it easier is the best one can do.

No worrying, no fears, no constant thinking, no going down.

Focus on the day you have and get the most out of it.

Focus on this minute now and stay in it, no drifting off.

Come to the end of the day and be glad to get there in one piece.

Spend the evenings softly doing things you never had time for when you were together.

Watch mindless crap on TV for a while, let go, no thinking.

Come to sleep time send love to your partner, day over.

Day after day live your life.

Don't waste it in useless pain.

Your reality is as it is, live it.

Different reality

He said this and she said that.

Both are convinced that the other does not listen.

Both are convinced that the other is wrong.

To an outsider neither seems to be listening to the other.

Many divorces and estrangements start from such seemingly simple arguments.

Try listening without bringing your judgments into the picture.

Leave judgment out and really listen.

Get into reality don't project.

Nine times out of ten there is a chance to diffuse things but only if we listen without judgment.

Time of our lives

Time of our lives.

Today that is, because yesterday has gone and tomorrow is just an idea.

So today it is then, the time of our lives, a time of hope.

So take actions which can lead towards what is important to you.

There is no tomorrow, do it today.

Its the time of our lives!

Divorce

Sometimes divorce settlements become nasty and vindictive.

Warning!

The only people who gain from such situations are lawyers.

The two parties involved in the nastiness only create personal bad karma..

Both seem to forget that they gave each other pleasure and loved each other.

Let go gracefully and thank each other for the good times not the bad.

Holding on to bad memories merely sours your future life.

If there are children involved think of the example your bitterness does to them.

If you want revenge then understand this:

The best revenge is living well!

Slowing down 10%

Too often through lack of focus we are clumsier in our actions than we should be.

So pay more attention, slow down a little bit.

In fact if you slow down 10% you will actually go faster.

Meaning if we pay more attention to what is going on we make less mistakes and achieve more.

So slow down 10% please.