The doctor said........

Many people in difficult situations are told to do this or that by their doctors.

Once upon a time you did what they told you.

Today it might be prudent to think twice.

In fact thinking for oneself is always a smart thing to do.

Yet amazingly many people even with their lives at risk do not think.

They just blindly accept.

It is not the doctors life it is yours.

In the final analysis we are all responsible for our own lives.

Inform yourself.

Make your choices.

Single parents

Be aware that your child needs time with your opposite sex.

If you are a single mother then try to make sure that your child has time with some child friendly male.

This so that your child is comfortable around members of your opposite sex.

So many children are starved of this possibility that many grow up dysfunctional.

Do not let your own prejudices harm your child's growth.

Men and women need each other.

This to complete their individual growth and understanding of themselves.

Sexy

She's so sexy.

He's so sexy.

Warning!

There is no free lunch.

Everyone comes with their story and baggage.

Do you really want to pay that price?

Wake up to sexy,

It's just manipulation to get what they want.

Sure the body might excite.

But do you really want to pay that price?

Think twice before you go for sexy!

Male measures

Many males believe that because they have a job and earn money that this is a measure of their worth.

This worth as they understand it is then magically transformed into a self measurement of their value as a human being.

Worth being regarded as value by this measurement

This creates many problems as a value based on money or job alone says nothing or little about the person as a human.

This is true even if many males should choose to so delude themselves.

When meeting males find out quickly how they see themselves.

Do not waste time on money valuing males.

If they have no contact with their emotions then better leave them be.

Smiling is for health

Yes, today if you smile you are indeed helping your immune system.

You are smiling for your health.

If you live in a city as most of us do then try smiling more.

You never know your smile can go all the way around your city and one day come back to you.

So if you like seeing smiling people then start by sending yours out each day.

Smile for health in fact!

Mechanism of understanding

In order to prevent a thing we must understand it.

We cannot understand while we fear or hate it.

We are not to love vice, but are to recognize that it is a part of the whole, and, trying to understand it, we thus get above it.

This is the "doctrine of opposites" spoken of in Bhagavad-Gita.

So if we turn in horror now (we may feel sad and charitable, though) from the bad, the future life will feel that horror and develop it by reaction into a reincarnation in a body and place where we must in material life go through the very thing we hate now.

So we must strive to regard the greatest vice as being something we must not hate while we will not engage in it.

Then we may approach that state where we will know the greater love that takes in good and evil men and things alike.

WQJ

Tedium

Five or six days a week same old routine.

Come the weekend suddenly you are free.

Really?

Or do you step into another tedium?

The tedium of conformity.

The tedium of doing the same old things?

Try to break out of your patterns.

Break free.

Step outside your box.

Experience life as something new.

Go beyond tedium.

The way back

The way back from being really down is best achieved:

Slowly

Quietly

Gently

No noise

Keep your thoughts to yourself until you are sure again.

Wait until you have found your balance again.

Listen to your heart.

And then and only then open your mouth.

World Cup

What really excites?

A truly global contest.

Something decided on merit.

Something that politicians cannot so easily fix.

Something with many rounds over several weeks.

And just maybe the unexpected.

Male bonding on a global scale.

Female incomprehension on a global scale.

All in all a nice change in pace.

Strange things

The most strange things happen continually in nature, and hardly attract our attention.

They do not seem strange to us, although we do not understand them; merely because we are accustomed to see them every day.

Who would be so “foolish” as to believe that a tree could grow out of a seed

– as there is evidently no tree in the seed

– if his experience had not told him that trees grow out of seeds in spite of all arguments to the contrary ?

Who would believe that a flower would grow out of a plant, if he had not seen it, for observation and reason show that there is no flower in the stalk ?

Nevertheless, flowers grow, and cannot be disputed away.

Wonder at the strange things we take for granted.

Without wonder this world is indeed a sorry place.

Strange things are all around us.

Notice your world.

No regrets

"Never regret anything."

Regret is a thought, hence an energy.

If we turn its tide upon the past, it plays upon the seeds of that past and vivifies them.

It causes them to sprout and grow in the ground of the mind.

From there to expression in action is but a step.

-- J. N.

Rich people or poor people?

So much is based on money at times it seems that there is no other value.

Notice that as this becomes increasingly true then the only people able to attend this or that have money.

And who has money?

Some inherit.

Some earn lots through talent.

Most pushed and shoved to grab theirs.

So if they are the only ones who can afford to go here or there.

Why would anyone want to spend time with them?

Let them spend time with each other and those who fawn on them.

Question?

Are they really rich or poor people?

Mental abuse

Is unfortunately all too common and is most often found being done to women.

If this is you then the first step is to accept and acknowledge that this is what it is.

Abuse is abuse.

Face it and call it what it is.

Second if you see yourself as a victim then look again.

You have choices

To accept and stay in the situation.

To confront the other party and state your unwillingness to continue receiving this behaviour and state clearly what you feel is reasonable with a clear deadline for a change in the other persons behaviour.

Or thirdly make your arrangements and leave.

You have choices.

Do not stay in an abusive situation.

See reality and move on.

More on Sleep

We all need different amounts of sleep.

Our sleep patterns change as we get older.

Our sleep patterns also change when we are under stress.

Sleep patterns change when the world is receiving high sun spot activity.

Our sleep experience is different around the time of a full moon.

In summer it can be different from winter.

Medications, different food, too much drink, recreational drugs all affect our sleep.

Being overtired, stretched out this too affects our sleep.

If you feel yourself under stress take a hot cup of vallerium every night an hour or so before retiring.

Vallerium can be obtained from any herbal shop.

The effects of vallerium are cumulative.

It is one of natures products and has no side effects.

Try it if your sleep is difficult.

Nature

A law of nature is not a command, but a statement of conditions.

This cannot be repeated too often, nor insisted on too strongly.

Nature does not order this thing or the other; she says: “Here are certain conditions; where these exist, such and such a result will invariably follow.”

A law of nature is an invariable sequence.

If you do not like the result, change the preceding conditions.

Ignorant, you are helpless, at the mercy of nature’s hurtling forces.

Wise, you are master, and her forces serve you obediently.

Every law of nature is an enabling, not a compelling, force, but knowledge is necessary for utilising her powers.

Tipping point

Is that point after which certain changes will occur, often used to describe climatic changes or the disappearance of species.

We have now reached or are reaching many tipping points in nature.

Less is said about human behavior however we have reached or passed several tipping points here too.

When evil no longer bothers to hide, this is a major tipping point.

It is a point of major consequence because evil people today do not bother to hide they just hire so called spin doctors to deny or distort any allegations.

However what they do often impacts us all.

Be clear about your own ethics.

Be clear about what you stand for.

Be clear about your own morality.

Too often has humanity moved towards self-destruction because of apathy.

Stand for what is important to you.

Do not sit on the sidelines, this is not an option today.

Live with purpose.

Do not reach your own tipping point through laziness.

Floating

Soft floaty feelings.

Some days are for dreaming.

Time for floating away.

Letting gentle be.

Feeling free.

Don't push these feelings away.

We all need floaty days.

Let nothing touch you.

Float away.

Anger = loss

Loss of energy that is.

When we are angry we use a large amount of energy.

This can then make us feel tired after the outburst.

Both mentally and physically tired that is.

Except that is for those who feed on others outbursts.

Who provoke violence.

Who delight in misery and pain.

Yes, you know some.

Do not feed them.

Walk away let them "win".

Try not to get angry.

Because anger is truly a loss.

Your loss that is.

Open eyes

Negative days tend to plunge us into ourselves.

Into our own little world of despair and unhappiness.

Look around you before you go too far.

Why?

Because often it is not us alone, it is a local or global thing.

So next time you feel down check out what others are feeling.

When it is not us alone then it is easier to handle.

Look around you before you slide into despair!

Never

Never say never because you are just setting limitations on possibilities.

Even if things look hopeless there is still no reason to say never.

Life can turn in most unexpected ways and history is full of remarkable stories where the unexpected has occured.

Never let never close down your options.

Stay alert to possibilities because if you let never become your reality then you can well miss an option.

At that point never may indeed be your experience.

Never say never.

The cause of disease

‘There is not an accident in our lives, not a misshapen day, or a misfortune, that could not be traced back to our own doings in this or in another life.’ (SD 1:643-4)

‘To say that selfishness is the cause of all disease is too general a statement.

To be more specific, it is the form of selfishness called passion, whether conscious or unconscious, which is the fruitful cause of disease – unconquered violent passion, such as hatred, anger, lust, etc.

Any such passion, mental or physical, shakes the lower constitution of man; it escapes from the control of the guiding hand of the higher part of his being, changing the direction of flow of the pranic life-currents, condensing them here, rarefying them there.

It thus interferes with the normal, easy workings of nature, which in this connection means health.

In fact, selfishness is at the root not merely of most disease, but of most evil-doing, and both are originally caused not by unconquerable but by unconquered passions.

‘The symptoms of disease, which only too often are treated as being the disease itself, are not infrequently the efforts of the forces of health to throw the poison out of the body.

A disease should be understood as a purifying process because the end will be a cleansing. It should be welcomed in the sense of a quiet understanding of the situation, and without either fear or an attempt to complicate or hinder the process.

But many people have an idea that the curing of disease consists in damming it back, shutting the doors against its egress out of the system. Such damming back, however, allows the roots of the disease to take firmer hold and spread and accumulate energy, so that when it reappears – as it inevitably will for its roots have not been extirpated – its reaction upon the body is more violent than it would have been if the disease had been allowed to take its course. ...

‘In many instances diseases may be a heaven-sent blessing: they cure egoism, they teach patience, and bring in their train the realization of the need for living rightly.

If we with our ungoverned emotions had bodies which could not be diseased, they might well be weakened and killed by excesses.

Diseases actually are warnings to reform our thoughts and to live in accordance with nature’s laws.

Emotional tiredness

Is possibly the most tiring of the various types of tiredness we feel.

Why is emotional tiredness so draining?

Because it touches the deepness in us.

It moves us in ways that other things cannot.

It touches those things that we have opened to.

Things we have trusted.

People we believed.

The unguarded core of our being.

That's why emotional tiredness is so draining.

When you experience this tiredness, shower, lie down, empty your mind, conversely be busy fill your mind with other thoughts.

Time heals is an old cliche however it is true so keep busy while you heal.

Selfiiiiiiiiiiiish!

Never thinks of others.

Never offers anything.

Borrows things all the time.

Never replaces anything.

Always dominates conversations talking about self.

Wake up!

This is evil call it selfish if you are squeamish.

Get this out of your life.

Life is too short to put up with this over time.

Move away, sell up, leave town.

Do not complain about it the person will not change.

Just move out of that persons life.

Selfish is as selfish does.

Not in your life please.

Mmmmm -25

'[Karma is] the Ultimate Law of the Universe, the source, origin and fount of all other laws which exist throughout Nature.

Karma is the unerring law which adjusts effect to cause, on the physical, mental and spiritual planes of being.

As no cause remains without its due effect from greatest to least, from a cosmic disturbance down to the movement of your hand, and as like produces like, Karma is that unseen and unknown law which adjusts wisely, intelligently and equitably each effect to its cause, tracing the latter back to its producer. . . .

Quote for thought

By observing with a quiet and still mind,one can perceive the origin of things.

This calm insight into the origin of desire ends desire naturally.

When there is no centre to give rise to desire,one sees things as they originally are.

Koh Kiang

Nothing to say

We had not seen each other for some time.

After a short time I realized that we had nothing to say to each other.

This happens to all of us at some time or another.

Take the positive.

That you can now see your own evolution since you last met.

That you no longer have the same interests or values.

No sadness.

You do not need to pretend.

You can move on.

Just mentally say thank you for what you have seen and learnt.

Move on.

Life is full of hallo and goodbye.

Meditating

When you meditate, there should be no effort to control and no attempt to be peaceful.

Don't be overly solemn or feel that you are taking part in some special ritual.

Let go even of the idea that you are meditating.

Let your body remain as it is, and your breath as you find it.

Sogyal Rinpoche

Smell for marriage

Yes there was a time when Russian women chose their husbands by their smell.

At harvest time the young men working in the fields would take off their sweaty shirts and these would be given unseen to the young women, who would then chose their partner by his smell.

Strange?

Not really if you think how we do things today.

A bunch of half-truths on the internet.

A photo.

Is this progress?

Funny how we take it for granted that what we do now is superior to what was done in days gone by.

How did you chose your partner?

What have you learnt?

Would you do the same again?

What would you do differently?

Learn please do not keep repeating mistakes.

Just one more

Just one more.

One more what?

Whatever it is, probably best not to have one more.

Having one more is when we get into trouble.

Say no more thank you.

We do not need more in order to feel more.

Learn to be happy before you reach your limit!