No courage

From their partner

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Is how many experience the end of their relationship

Not even a goodbye

No explanation, no conversation

Just gone

If you experience this then how lucky you are

Lucky or your good karma however you want to think of it

If the other person does not have the courage to finish in the right way

So be it

For you how lucky to know earlier rather than later

The pain might be horrible for a while in fact it certainly will be

And as this goes and you stop obsessing about being left

Time to see that you were not in reality with that person

If they can walk out then your perception of them was wrong

Your projections about the relationship were wrong as well

Look at yourself and use the experience to learn

Learn how the world really is

Not how you think it should be

Not how you want it to be

How it is

Take the time to learn how you really are

Mentally say thank you for being free of something that could not work over time anyway

Get on with your life

Feel free learn to use this freedom

Start enjoying your own life in your own way

Do all those things you always wanted to do

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Move on

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No more projections about how things should be live life as it unfolds

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Live your own life with courage

Just try it

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Fundamentalists

Fundamentalists of all religions ‘have willingly abandoned rationality in favour of blind faith in old books’

The reason fundamentalists are so extreme is that they have an absolute certainty that they are right and everyone else is wrong.

Religious Fundamentalism is an irrational pathology which leads otherwise decent men and women to become enemies of open mindedness and big-heartiness, and enlist in the service of divinely sanctioned bigotry.

Fundamentalism creates dangerously self-righteous people who turn against those who espouse the truly spiritual values of love, tolerance and understanding.
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There is no negotiation with fundamentalists

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There is no chance of change or compromise

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This is our world today

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And when fundamentalists of different persuasions meet?

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Our world today

Is it what you thought

Life that is

Did you think it would be like this?

Could be like this

What do you want from it?

More to the point what are you putting into it

Does it push you around or are you making active choices

We can only do the best with what comes our way each day

However we can decide that over time we will achieve our goals

Goals to change jobs, learn more about something, change relationships

And all of these start because we decided to change

So if your life is not as you thought then consider first why did you expect it to be a certain way?

Was this wishful thinking

Was there any reason why it should have been that way

If your answers are no then time to examine what you want from now on

The past is gone let it go you cannot change it

The future can be different if you determine to take steps to cause change to come into your life

Be realistic, be bold then set things in motion

Live each day in the present moment enjoying each day

Do this in the knowledge that you are moving towards the changes you decided to bring into your life

You can now experience life as it really is, a process

Life is always process it is just that sometimes we don't realise this.

Another Monday

And another week

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More of the same, just like last week

It might be, it's up to you

One thing we all see though is how fast the weeks go by

This year went fast too

Time is different

As a friend said to me recently

It is not the week that goes slowly

It is the weekend

Is this true for you that the week goes in a flash and the weekend is what slows right down?

Maybe it is because the weekend has value while the week is something we have to do

So today notice it is Monday and notice how you experience it

Is it semi-automatic?

Turn it round make each and every day special

It only takes one event, one situation and it will become special

Often this is a negative event

You lose something

Someone says something nasty

You make a mistake

Things don't happen as they should

This is all true and the obverse can be too it is up to you

Make this Monday special by feeling love

Love for life

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Appreciation for your health

The appreciation that you have choices

Make choices of love today

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Try enjoying going to work

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Enjoy going home too

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Be conscious of both

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And the rest

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Choose consciously to enjoy every minute

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Time is different today

Buzzy

Places are good for us sometimes to unwind

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It does not have to be a rave

Not all the time either but certainly once in a

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Just being in a place where the energy is buzzy

Often we forget how pleasant buzzy places can be

Places where young people are enjoying themselves

Something about the optimism of the young

Not ground down like their parents

Still with the excitement of meeting

The excitement of experiencing

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Being around each other

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Take time to go to buzzy places and events

A life without buzz is sad indeed.

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When was the last time you went anywhere buzzy?

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Or does everything seem too dangerous to you?

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Too wild maybe

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Carry excitement with you and that's what you find

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Carry fear and that's what you find

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Be around buzzy sometimes just for the fun of it

Sleepless night

Every so often one comes along

It doesn't matter what you try you cannot get to sleep

Humans need four hours of sleep to function well

This is not to say that you would not prefer eight or nine hours

Just that we are able to function on a lot less

And here's the rub often what what we tell ourselves

Or friends tell us says that no we cannot function on less than x hours sleep

Meaning?

That we have programmed ourselves to be more stressed than we need be

Imprinted the idea that we need x hours of sleep

Putting ourselves under unnecessary tension when we don't get x hours

Time to do a couple of things

The first is to program yourself that missing a night or two's sleep does not matter, it's fine

Missing a few hours sleep is also fine

Then program yourself when unable to sleep that this is fine and that you will learn to feel happy in spite of being unable to sleep

Yes that it is fine not to sleep with no tense thoughts about why can't I sleep

Just learn to lie there relaxed and resting, gaping out not allowing yourself to think

Smile even at this private time alone

If you can do this you will be surprised how well you will feel next morning

Then when awake check why this happened

Something worrying you?

Something you need to look at?

Or was there an earthquake or eruption somewhere on the planet?

Yes some of us are sensitive to the point where major events of this nature can disturb us

All of us will have difficult nights it's the way of life

So take a little time to learn how to best handle them.

Cold

And then there is real cold

The minus twenty five variety of cold

Cold that cannot be casually ignored

Cold that demands serious respect

Cold that shapes our lives because we have to adjust to it

We cannot ignore it whoever we are

And then there is the other sort of cold

People who are cold

No warmth just focused self interest

In a way they are worse than the weather kind of cold as there is nowhere to go with them

If people are cold then leave them be or move around them

Learn about characteristics

Characteristics that allow us to recognise different types of people

People who are cold, lack humour, have long term memories are usually characteristics of evil people

Yes evil is as real as love probably more so in these self absorbed times

So be careful around cold people they can also cause damage

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In fact beware of all types of cold!

Want to believe

Are those times when we want to believe

A part of us is sceptical

A part of us knows it cannot be

However we let ourselves go along

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Later to be disappointed when it turns out that yes it was to good to be true

And wasn't true

Why do we do this?

We want something nice, it to turn out nice, him or her to be nice

When things or people pretend to be what they are not they usually give themselves away

Something is not quite right

Something does not compute

Listen to that part of you that knows

Walk away before you get hurt or cheated

Listen to yourself more often

That little quiet voice that suddenly warns you

That feeling that things are not quite right

Trust your judgement

Better be alone or without whatever than to be cheated again

Appreciate what you have in life

Nearly

I nearly did it

I nearly did

How many times was the nearly a lack of effort on your part?

How many times was it just bad luck

Not my day

And so the excuses go on

Ever thought that you can increase the chance of nearly becoming I did it

Two things usually get in the way

We do not focus single mindedly

We lack belief that we can

The first single minded focusing is the hallmark of all successful people in sport or business or any other endeavour

If you are going to do something then why not focus?

Put all your attention on it, do not allow any distractions

Which leads to the second, the doubt that you can

If others have done whatever it is before you, then why not you?

If others have done it then you decide that you will too taking your self belief up that notch that can make all the difference

Let go of the fear of failure, embrace maximum effort and focus

Try it, focus and do it